A daughter-in-law dedication

My Saturday in SoCal has not been nearly as eventful as this. My son sent these pics from New Haven where he went cross country skiing in thirty-eight inches of snow. I hope everyone is OK and hasn’t lost power or anything!

This is my 200th post–what a milestone! It seems only right that I dedicate this to S, my DIL. She badgered encouraged me to blog, to share my thoughts and snarky commentary (and not bug her and my son so much??) and it was my son who set up the WP account. (I’ll save those accolades for his March birthday post-plenty of time to get your hankies washed, ironed, and perfumed–they’ll be drenched with tears. A mommy’s love is fierce, y’all. Just a warning.) 

miljokeI hope I’m not a bad MIL. I had two of the worst mothers-in-law you could imagine-three if you count my tugboat man’s evil stepmother. The first one wasn’t really that bad; she suffered from a lot of medical problems so I’ll give her a pass for that reason-but she was just a precursor, a forerunner to a doozy of a bitch. Hub’s mom; a laconic thrower of backhanded one-liners–a future post’ll share some of my most memorable experiences.

MIL noteHopefully, that’s taught me not to be SO terrible, but as mom of an only child who happens to be a son whose nickname is Angel Boy and on whom the sun rises and sets, you can bet there needs to be a bit of benevolence, compassion, understanding, and sensitivity on both sides. There’s a def learning curve.

(I’m sure she fondly remembers our house rule of “no cohabitation without documentation” before they were married.)

S has a great sense of humor and a highly developed wit–a great way to deal with a MIL! Right, S?

Although she did recommend I watch “Monster-in-Law”…do you think she was subtly trying to tell me something?

Is my DIL trying to tell me something?

Is my DIL trying to tell me something?

S is London-born with a Ph.D. in Neuroscience from Brown. She’s opened up my world to lots of cool things like Absolutely Fabulous, Gossip Girl, and Downton Abbey. She’s a girly girl in addition to all that brain power. We’ve had a lot of fun together: shopping, getting manis, and making candles. I never had a girl child so it’s been a lot of fun doing things that my mom and I did. As a family, we’ve all gone hiking and camping together–it was DIL who taught me how to “pop a squat”–a skill that’s come in handy more times than I care to mention!

I can’t share what she does-YET-but as soon as I can, you can be sure I’ll shout it to the heavens with PRIDE!

DIL earned a special title.

Isn't she totes adorbs?

Isn’t she totes adorbs?

When she calls (which she should do more often), I’m alerted by the screen telling me it’s Angel Girl.

Thank you, DIL!

63 thoughts on “A daughter-in-law dedication

      • Yeah, long story short – I am at home. My husband is at the party. I even bought new shoes to wear. There was a little bit of a “misunderstanding” between siblings here tonight right before we were leaving. I had to stay home and smooth things over. It’s all good though. I’m just working on some articles. 🙂


      • OH NO, poor you! Geez, I am so sorry! I bet if those kids had to spend a weekend with me, they’d never give you a moment’s trouble again.

        On Sat, Feb 9, 2013 at 7:29 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • One of J’s friends in high school said he had a radio collar on him with a 10mile radius cos my son wasn’t really allowed very much freedom. We even followed him the night of his prom to make sure he was where he was supposed to be. true story.

        On Sun, Feb 10, 2013 at 7:59 AM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


  1. You are a wonderful MIL. What a beautiful tribute. Happy 200th post!
    I miss snow and seeing those skis made me really homesick. The last time I went skiing was in Maggie Valley NC. But I love the skiing in the Northeast 🙂


    • I think it’s tough all around when the poor son has been the sun and the stars and everyone wants a piece of him! LOL! I wouldn’t want to be like what I had to deal with! Now I haven’t spoken to hubs mom since 2000.

      On Sat, Feb 9, 2013 at 9:03 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


  2. I’m lucky to have a wonderful MIL, so much so I class her as my second mum. Anyway, I still call my son ‘my baby’, that’ll never change, nor do I let him forget it.
    I’m sure your DIL thinks you’re a wonderful MIL, how couldn’t she. Oh, and congrats on your 200th post. 😉


    • You are so lucky, my MIL9(s) were and are not nice people, not just to me tho, so I can’t take it personally! Glad you got lucky in the MIL dept. Thanks for the congrats!

      On Sun, Feb 10, 2013 at 6:13 AM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


  3. You and I will really have to get together and compare M-in-L notes.. You are very fortunate in D-in-l, as I have been….some of the time….the rest….well, you have no idea.However ,I have knocked myself out for the good the bad and the ugly of D(s)-in-l.I am glad that Angel Girl appreciates you!


      • Hit 184 today… I’ve been averaging around 2 posts a day Mon – Fri, so I should hit the 200 mark next week. Haven’t decided yet what I”m going to do with it, but it will probably have a little bit of everything: humor, fiction, Q and A, etc… and whole bunch of links and pingbacks.


      • I’ll bring the music (hey, there’s something I haven’t really done yet… maybe my 200th post will be a link to one of my dj sets…). What would you like to bring?


      • It’s your special day, YOU choose! What could I bring….hmmm…I’m not the greatest poetess, so that’s out. You decide.

        On Mon, Feb 11, 2013 at 1:12 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • Okay, maybe we’ll have to colloberate ahead of time – I’ll send you the link to the music I’m going to post, and you can come up with some words to go along with it… how does that sound?


      • The link didn’t work, and yes, I do want to add words, try again! Don’t forget to at least do a teaser post to let everyone know that the big one’s coming!

        On Fri, Feb 15, 2013 at 11:02 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • This is what I got when I clicked: Not Found

        Apologies, but the page you requested could not be found. Perhaps searching will help.

        On Sat, Feb 16, 2013 at 1:18 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • *forehead slap* Sometimes I worry about me. It’s on YouTube: http://youtu.be/H69zSq1YfU4
        It has also dawned on me that it’s really long: 75 minutes… so, maybe it would make sense to ask a couple other people to come up with accompanying words for different sections? What do you think?


      • In order to write something significant to commemorate such a spectacular milestone, I need to know a bit more about you to weave into the story. 1. do you remember your kindergarten teacher’s name? if not, make one up. 2. when did you first learn to tie your shoes? 3. share with me a couple of other milestones in your life (other than getting married) 4. what exactly do you do with your day everyday? (that’s for me) 5. what’s your favorite food-color? and favorite breakfast food? 6. Ginger or Maryann? Get that back to me asap.

        On Sat, Feb 16, 2013 at 1:49 PM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • 1. Mrs. Dickey – I’m pretty sure about that. Though, she changed her name at some point and I can’t remember if that is what is now, or if that is what is used to be.
        2. no clue – Googled it, and apparantley that is something kids learn before kindergarten, so let’s say that I was 4.
        3. climbed whitney the first time when I was 10, got glasses when I was 11, switched to contacts when I was 12, graduated from HS in ’99, graduated from college (UCSD) in ’03 with a BA in Psychology, bought a condo in 2009, and adopted two kittens that year too
        4. Work for Bank of America as a Business Control Specialist – it’s bascially a compliance/risk assesment role; making sure we are following procedures and are performing within regulations; write, read, watch TV, play with my cats, play volleyball, watch soccer games
        5. favorite food color? the bright red of a medium-rare steak? the crisp green of grilled asparagus? the dirty white of garlic mashed potatos? is that what you are asking? / favorite breakfast food = croissant sandwhich – croissant, egg, bacon, cheese, delicious
        6. maryann 😀


      • I meant favorite food and favorite color, two separate questions but whatev, yours is better! ***but hold on a minny, you were at UCSD? My son graduated from there and so did DIL. Perhaps your paths have crossed at some point… You climbed Whitney at age 10???? Awesome. Your fave breakfast is extremely unhealthy, as I’m sure you’re aware. What are your cats’ names?

        On Sun, Feb 17, 2013 at 9:38 AM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • well aware my favorite breakfast is terrible for me. but, yolo, or so they say, and I don’t have it very often – normally i have a bagel and a banana.
        favorite color is blue, if you still want that
        favorite food is a home bbqed steak dinner prepared by yours truly
        Kitties are Sara and Belle
        When did your son and DIL graduate? I went to Revelle College but knew people from some of the others too…


      • revelle/2003/cum laude (!) 2 BAs (!) that means we were all there that hottest day ever for graduation, and you prolly heard me screaming and didn’t know which crazy mom it was!

        **how about your favorite vegetable, cos I’m having a hard time talking about meat, as I’m a veg…

        On Sun, Feb 17, 2013 at 10:06 AM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


      • no way! how crazy is that! must have run into them at some point then, for sure. And yes, that day was ridiculously hot… might have had a drink or two beforehand though and wasn’t feeling it as much as others
        favorite veggie? broccoli? asparagus? are those veggies?


      • Maybe, sort of… I’d think that hair would be hard to forget, but it has been 10 years (this coming summer) since we graduated… (oh my! how has it been 10 years already?!)


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  5. Wow MIL *blush*! So sorry I came late to the party. You always had the voice for blogging, I just gave you a little nudge, but I am beyond proud of how your blog looks today. You make it easy to be DIL – valentine snack packages, healthy oatmeal cookies, manis, trips to anthro, homemade smoothies, grant edits, late night typo checks – but they best part is knowing you are always on our side. Always there to listen and help. Remember when baby sister DIL was dehydrated after “playing rugby” in vegas? You were right there with the potassium tomato juice advice! Massive congratulations on the 200th post! Looking forward to celebrating the 2000th! xxx


    • Alls I want to know then, DIL, is why we all went along with the “playing rugby” story…did you think I didn’t have my “suspicions”?? LOL, duh. Of course I’m glad to help. What are moms for anyway. Seriously, you are awesome and we are so proud of you. Now, if you and Angel Boy could only manage to live in the same time zone! We’ll have to have a backyard ritual to seal the deal, right? Thank you for your comment (better late than never) and thanks for all your help. Not everyone can say they had a future Silicon Valley zillionaire designing their little blog! x PS was that a hint to go to Anthro when you guys are here?

      On Wed, Feb 27, 2013 at 8:19 AM, Enchanted Seashells…Confessions of a Tugbo


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