From Melody Beattie: Let the drama go

Lots of us connected with Melody Beattie when her first books were published: Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency. They offered us an open door of awareness and insight into the shadowy and hidden parts of ourselves that were perhaps conditioned from childhood to become dependent upon others’ opinions and feelings, and helped us to grow into flowering autonomous butterflies.

Like a car, it’s a good idea to get a little tune-up now and again and revisit those concepts and strengthen boundaries that may have become a bit too flexible.

She has an awesome website with daily meditations:

This is today’s wisdom…just what I needed to read. I hope it resonates with you, too.

Let the drama go

November 04, 2017

Actors in movies or on television often must exaggerate their feelings in order to create drama on the screen. If they are hurt, they cry with a special intensity. If afraid, they scream and cower in a corner or curl up on a sofa. They may grab a person trying to leave and beg for that person to stay. In rage, they may stomp around hollering in a dramatic storm.

We can learn to separate what we’re feeling from what we do. If we’re feeling fear, hurt, anger, or any other emotion, we need to experience the emotion until we become clear. Sometimes beating a pillow helps release our anger. But we don’t have to stomp around and slam doors. That’s letting our emotions control us.

You don’t have to revel in your emotions. And you can separate your behaviors—what you do—from what you feel.

Stop being a twentieth-century drama queen. It isn’t necessary, anymore. We are more conscious than that now.

From the book: More Language of Letting Go