All You Need is Love, Love is All You Need

…there’s nothing you can do that can’t be done, nothing you can sing that can’t be sung, nothing you can say, but you can learn how to play the game, it’s easy, all you need is love, all you need is love, all you need is love, love, love is all you need. – The Beatles

lovely blog awardIf only that were true, right? I am the honored recipient of some hot love from Cowboys and Crossbones in the form of One Lovely Blog Award. With lots of love right back to CBXB, I’ll try to do justice to the love! THANKS CHICKA! YOU ROCK!

The rules are simple:  to share seven random things about myself and to nominate seven other worthy bloggers.

Where to begin. Where to begin.  I’ve shared so much, I wonder what’s left? (It’s no secret I love seashells and shopping and my Angel Boy child.)

1. I totally crush on Tina Fey. She’s smart and funny and pretty and very powerful. tina fey

2. I’m petrified to walk across running water, like a creek.

3. When the captain’s gone, I change all of the buttons on his car radio to my favorite station and place Hello Kitty stickers all over his truck-interior and exterior, just to annoy him.hellokittycup

4. I’ve been to Greece and Germany.

5. I was once the bathing suit centerfold model for a trade magazine for police officers. Don’t even think about me posting any pix.  Don’t even think about it.

6. I like to watch fifties and sixties sitcoms: Leave it to Beaver, Father Knows Best, I Love Lucy, My Three Sons.

7. The day I fell in love with the captain, I felt the earth move.

Check out these seven awesome bloggers-there are tons more I could include, but seven is the magic number!

Why am I here in a handbasket
The Cheeky Diva
The Fur Files
Misifusa’s Blog

Winner, winner, winner! Liebster Award

One of my new besties, a very lovely lady who writes Tonettejoycefoodfriendsfamily, nominated me for the prestigious Liebster Award. This is a wonderful and unexpected honor, albeit a teensy bit sad, because it’s meant to draw attention to deserving blogs (the happy part) who have less than 200 readers (the sad face part). However, I will carry on with a smile as the glass half full kinda gal I am, and proceed with the rules.

I need to nominate 11 other under-appreciated blogs with less than 200 followers. Hey guys, I appreciate you! Please visit them and give them some love because they are very interesting to read and are authored by brilliant and creative writers. Some have a bit more than 200 but I really enjoy them so much I wanted to help others make the discovery, and I think I actually have chosen 12, but whatever, I never like to follow rules.  And since most of the time I believe the world revolves around me (well, it does around MY house!) and it’s all about me, I can mess with the rules just a bit. Next comes 11 juicy tidbits about myself, then answer 11 questions sent to me, and create 11 questions for my chosen group.

Eleven random facts about ME you really want to know!

1. My grandfather was a rabbi

2. I was in the movie “Stuntman”

3. I fell down a manhole when I was three-years-0ld

4. I once interviewed Bob Hope

5. I know someone who knows someone who went to the Skyfall premiere

6. I love animals more than 90% of all the humans on Earth

7. I’m from the midwest

8. I could probably have a big win on Jeopardy-my head is full of useless information

9. I’ve taught school

10. My husband says I use a shovel like a man (he meant it as a compliment; I was not amused)

11. I haven’t eaten meat since I was 16-years-old

I nominate:

The Fur Files 


Beach Treasures and Treasure Beaches 

Michelle at Play

Life on Wry

Red Dirt Kelly

Jewels for All

Better Half Weddings

Seashells by Millhill

Misifusa’s Blog

Midlife Crisis Crossover

Elyses’s Life as I Know It

These are the questions that I had to answer:

Where is the farthest you have even been from where you were born? Not sure which is further from Detroit; Germany or Greece, but I’ve been to both

Do you live now where your family lived? My mom and dad and I moved from the mid west to San Diego, and my brother lives in on the west coast but not nearby; don’t keep in touch very much with the rest of the family

Do you like to live in the city or the country? I like where I live now, near the beach with a bit of hills, and the city about 30 minutes away. I want a little bit of everything!

Do you prefer to visit the city or the country? Definitely the country– to go hiking, camping, skiing. The city is only good for shopping

In what ways do you consider yourself the most creative?(Name as many ways as you’d like.)

I think I’m a pretty creative gluer of seashells and I try to put words together like I arrange my shells and rocks and beach glass

What do you see yourself doing in 5 years? I would like to build my copy editing/proofing business and maybe have the two books I’m currently working on done and published as well as the reality show I want to pitch to ANYONE and you’ll be seeing me on all the talk shows looking very fashionista

What would you like to try that you have not done before? Ski without being petrified of going too fast and falling.

Is there any place in particular that you have never seen that you would like to visit? France

What would you change about the world if you had one quick wish? No animal or child abuse

Rank these(1,2,3,4):books, music, sports, movies You did it for me, I would keep them arranged exactly the same!

What are your 3 favorite holidays? (Whatever you celebrate) My son’s birthday, Christmas, Hannukah, wedding anniversary (I chose 4)

Here are my questions for you: 

1. How old were you when you first learned to read?

2. Name two of your favorite books.

3. What’s your favorite holiday dessert?

4. What is a Merchant Marine?

5. Who is your role model?

6. Who is your favorite movie star?

7. Do you make new year’s resolutions?

8. What’s cluttering up your life?

9. Do you drive a car or a truck?

10. Do you know how to change the battery in a smoke alarm?

11. What is your best home remedy for a sore throat?

No, I can’t go with him when he goes out to sea. Please. stop. asking.

When I was at the gym today, one of the girls asked me the question I have been asked literally hundreds of times…”Do you ever go with him?” NO, I can’t ever go with him, nor can I meet him and spend a few days sightseeing! In the middle of the ocean? He is working ALL the time. The way MMs are paid is on a “daily rate” basis which means he literally is on the clock 24 hours a day. Sometimes it’s 8 hours on and four hours off, or 6 hours on and six hours off. In the “off” times, he has to eat and shower and sleep, so that schedule is rife with potential sleep deprivation issues. When he comes home after a long sea assignment, it takes about a week to regulate his body to a more normal sleep pattern.  I guess there are still some situations where spousal visits to ports are possible, but that has never been my own experience, and since I get seasick and tugs are super noisy and smelly, I am not sure it would that much fun. Def not an idyllic scene like a charter boat moored near an island in Greece, for instance…

If you are new to the MM life, I can share some of our experiences that have worked for us.

Here’s a picture of how we prepare for MM going out to sea. We discovered that having a departure routine is also a coping strategy, as it helps us work as a team. The prep is a major undertaking, although a reluctant one on my part, because it ends with a drive to the airport. When our beloved pets were still alive (a border collie named Victor and our adorable cat, Bandit), just getting the suitcases out of the garage actually caused them to become depressed, as they both came to associate that action with their daddy going away. So sad!

We make a lot of lists so he’ll have enough supplies of personal items to last the duration of his assignment. He’ll often gone for about 2-4 months and there are no stores in the middle of the ocean!  There is always a cook aboard the vessels, so he doesn’t have to worry about food, but he has to have enough toothpaste(4), dental floss(4), vitamins, the kind of tea he likes (Yogi Antioxidant and Ginger), underwear, socks, shampoo (Kiehls is the shampoo of choice), sunscreen, and the supplies for his marlinspikemanship, which is the kind of ropework that merchant marines do to pass the time on those long voyages.  I usually pack some raw almonds, raisins, dried (unsweetened) mangos, and papayas from Trader Joe’s so he has some healthy snacks to last a while. He fills two large suitcases, two medium suitcases, and a backpack that contains his computer, iPod, other personal items. A tug is a noisy place and he tried some noise cancelling headphones but they really didn’t seem to work, but we didn’t get Bose, ‘cos they were almost $300.

I think that it is important to have a discussion about serious matters, just in case. It’s something no one wants to think about, but the reality is that a tugboat is a dangerous place, and it’s smart, not to mention empowering, to be prepared in the event of a worst case scenario. I suggest making sure you each have current powers of attorney, and easy access to all financial documents. (I’m not an attorney; this is just what we have found to be a good idea), He always checks our two cars to make sure they are in good working order, fills the gas can for the lawnmower, and completes any house repair jobs. It’s these little things that he does that make me feel like we are still connected even when he is an ocean away. I think it is also very important to know how to reach him in case of an emergency. Cell phones will often not work in remote locations, and there is a definite course of action to take if it becomes necessary for him to come home. I make sure that my son and our friends have that info just in case something happens to me and they need to contact my MM. I’m off to a Spin class, and then a doctor’s appt. I got stabbed in the arm by a vicious blue agave, and it still hurts like I have a broken arm.  I remembered too late to snip off the sharp ends…