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What is Death

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I don’t often write about sadness, sad things, darkness; the shadowy and often ephemeral side of LIFE, but someone I know just died and I didn’t see her before it happened. I’m upset with myself because I didn’t make the time to visit as soon as I heard she had an incurable illness.

I’m upset with myself that I didn’t do more to be a better friend. There are reasons that truly make sense; her life took a path that was unsafe and even dangerous, and it was unhealthy to perpetuate a relationship with someone who changed so completely from the person I had originally befriended, but I still would have liked to have said or done something to let her know that I hoped she would recover — that I was thinking about her.

The day that I finally planned to reach out came too late because she did NOT recover and that makes me sad, too — for her, and for her son who lost his mom far too soon.

So… what is death? Scientifically, the heart stops beating, the lungs stop inhaling and exhaling; pupils become fixed and dilated.

But if someone remembers you with love, did you really die? Are memories the thing that keeps us alive?

I have no idea, but I think that’s enough depressing rumination for one day. If a similar situation arises, I hope I’ll remember to reach out before time runs out, because you just never know…

Rest in peace, friend.

Rizz: Word of The YEAR

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Rizz = charISma.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary, “rizz” is the word of the year for 2023.

I can’t imagine how I managed to get through almost this entire year and only learn about it NOW, but I’m not a teen and not on TikTok, which I believe is where it originally came from.

“Rizz is a colloquial word, defined as style, charm, or attractiveness; the ability to attract a romantic partner” according to the Oxford University Press, to flirt with a degree of charm, to “rizz up”.

As for the word’s etymology, OUP says it’s believed to have been taken from the middle of “charisma,” much like “fridge” derives from refrigerator.

I reckon it’s akin to having “game” in the old days; chatty repartee with a certain amount of flirtatious banter, at least that’s how I’d describe it.

You either have it–or you don’t, it’s that simple.

Think of Joey in Friends, when “How you doin” is ALL he needed to say…total rizz!