Burying the Lede. Again.

Picture this: last evening at 5pm…I’m still sick with the flu (but recovering) on the sofa in my flannel jammies, the ones with happy little owls sprinkled all over a turquoise background, drinking ginger tea (I’m always drinking ginger tea lol) and hub calls.

He casually chitchats for a few minutes about how I’m feeling and about the rain we had and then asks me if I’ve checked his email today (I check his email when he’s gone cos he doesn’t have access to it AND because we have no secrets) and I said no, but hold on, I’ll look right now.

I tell him there’s nothing there and he said, oh, I guess they didn’t cc me.

I said, WHO didn’t cc you WHAT?

No response.

Silence.

I start feeling a little apprehensive.

Not for any other reason than after twenty-two years, I think I’ve finally figured out that hub’s silences speak volumes.

Tugboat man-a man of few words-enjoys observing my mind make quantum leaps.

Oh, don’t even tell me, I said. SILENCE. Absolute silence.

AREYOUFLYINGHOMETOMORROWANDYOU’RETELLINGMENOWWW?

His response? Laughing. That’s it. He laughs.

So…boys and girls, after waiting and waiting and waiting, and thinking for sure he’s coming home on Tuesday,  it’s official.

Tugboat man will be home TODAY.

I’ve never met anybody in my entire life that could bury the lede like he does.

Now is the season for miracles and it’s gonna take a miracle to get me ready and to get some food and freshly baked goodies in this house.

Wish me luck, ‘cos I’m gonna need it.


 

BURYLEAD

FYI, if you’re a writer, you know this is how things are supposed to go!

Read about another time he buried the lede (or lead)

 

 

 

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It Hit Me Like a Wrecking Ball

Yesterday I was on the beach at our Agua Hedionda Lagoon with a friend, taking photos just before sunset when the light was perfectperfectperfect.

It took me about ten minutes to walk home.

Without warning, I was shaking with chills, a headache, and a 101.5 temp.

Just like that.

It hit me like a wrecking ball.

I couldn’t get warm. I took a hot shower, drank scalding tea, and made miso soup.

Finally, five hours later, my teeth stopped chattering and I started burning up.

You want to know when I really miss my tugboat man?

It’s times like this, when I wish he were here to bring me Tylenol and a cold compress; toast and tea.

It’s these little things; the “in sickness and in health” kinds of things-that weave the fibers of a marriage.

Yup, I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself right about now.

Anyone want to bring me a cuppa?

 

 

 

 

“I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all.”

I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all. ~ Coco Chanel

Yes, my darling Coco said that, and it’s one of my favorite quotes.

Confession time:

Did you know that I used to be so shy that I’d never speak up in class or voice an opinion or even HAVE an opinion because it might somehow be the wrong one?

I used to be so afraid of what people thought about me.

It was a lot of wasted time, worrying about other people and their opinions.

And today? I don’t really care so much. (A little, but not too much.)

This was a life lesson I wish I’d learned decades ago. Sigh.

If you know me NOW, I’m positive you’re shaking your head in disbelief, but it’s true.

I dunno, maybe it was all the animal protests and wolf activism I’ve been involved in that changed me, but I’ve developed such a LOUD VOICE that some actively wish it would be quiet once in a while (like tugboat man) but there are things that need to be done and things that need to be said—and I’m silent no longer.

Which is a really strange segue to where I’m going with this post—like life, it’s a journey of sorts.

Sometimes in life people cross your path and you’re inspired by all they’ve achieved, following their dreams to create a better world.

Meet Cori coriSchumacher.

I’m working with her on a couple of projects here in Carlsbad, and she’s FIERCE, y’all.

Maybe I admire her so much because it took me so long to discover my own power and my own voice.

If you aren’t already following her blog, here’s the link…
http://www.corischumacher.com/

…and a snippet of her bio so you’ll get to know Cori:

I am a three-time Women’s World Longboard Champion (2000, 2001, 2010), Women’s Longboard Pipeline Pro Champion (2009), and two-time ASP North American Champion (2008, 2009). From late 2001 to 2005, I went on sabbatical from competition, surfing in only two events from 2005 to 2007. I returned officially to longboard competition in 2008 to win the Linda Benson Roxy Jam at Cardiff, California. I ceased competing altogether after boycotting the ASP World Tour in 2011.

In 2012, I co-founded the nonprofit, The Inspire Initiative, “to enrich and empower women of all ages through participation in surfing while emphasizing education, media literacy, and building a core community of leaders that will effect positive change in the world.” I am interested in using The Inspire Initiative to develop creative, non-competitive spaces through which to explore surfing’s potential as a complicated force for the physical liberation of women and girls around the world.I have chosen to use my platform as a world class athlete to create positive social impact in and around persistent gender disparity, homophobia, the impacts of consumer culture, and other important social and environmental issues in and around surfing and sports in general. I have written various articles addressing these issues that have been published in The Inertia, The Guardian, The Surfers Journal, and elsewhere, and have been a keynote speaker at multiple local and international conferences and events.

In 2013, I spearheaded a successful international campaign against Roxy that made visible the growing concern and pushback against the hyper-sexualization of elite female professional surfers, a problematic issue that continues to require attention and activism.

In 2015, I accepted an invitation to become an ambassador for Surfers for West Papua, a “solidarity and awareness-raising campaign aimed at exposing Indonesia’s brutal oppression and on-going occupation of West Papua.”

She gets shit done, you guys.
GETS. IT. DONE.dropmic

 

“Put on your yarmulke, it’s time for Chanukah!”

Happy Chanukah!

(In case you don’t know how to pronounce the word, if I spelled it like this, “Hannukah”, that’d give you a hint.)

Eight days of prezzies, what could be better?

I (really) am aware there’s another more serious reason for the celebration called Festival of Lights, but nothing compares to the sparkle of a diamond in the candleglow of a fully lit menorah.

AMMIRIGHT?

Have you heard the new version of Adam Sandler’s Chanukah song with references to Jared Fogle and Adam Levine?

Funny as always.

So enjoy your Kugel, already!

Click here for a link to my mom’s famous recipe, Not Kegel, But a Kugel-licious Recipe

And Hannukah Hairy Harry, let’s not forget THIS little guy…

Click here: Hairy Hanukkah Harry and The Story of Hanukkah 2012

Hannukah candles

And…it’s just possible that on the 8th day of Chanukah I’ll receive a HUGE gift in the form of a big old hairy sexy blue-eyed tugboat man!

Keep your fingers crossed for me and light your candles!

חנוכה שמחה


					

my part-time marriage

You know what I hate more than my tugboat man’s delays that prevent him from coming home?

I really hate all the people who don’t stop asking me when he’s coming home and give me a sort of a snarkly schadenfreude look when I tell them I don’t know or you’ll see him when I see him–they invariably ask me why I stay married to a guy like that–why I put up with it.

That’s just so f***ing rude.

Or they make dumbass comments about how much fun I must have being single for 50% of the time and do I go out and party a lot and how he must cramp my style when he’s home.

Or the one that really gets me boiling…they wish THEIR men were gone most of the time like my guy, cos their hub is annoying, stupid, lazy, boring–or a combination of a few or all of those traits.

Since I don’t normally unleash my UBER-BEEYOTCHY side on the people I see on a regular basis, I’m doing it here.

Let me clarify…

We have a twenty-two year marriage that’s built on trust, love, commitment, strength, and respect.

WE ARE A TEAM.

We’re in this marriage together–TOGETHER–whatever it is, we deal with things TOGETHER– not as adversaries blaming each other, but we work on issues and problems as a TEAM.

Whether his career now takes him out to sea and offshore and away from home for six weeks or two months or even four months–it’s a blip on the radar of the love we share.

Oh, and for those who wonder if I’ve ever been unfaithful or if he has relationships in every port–let me tell you that I can be 1000% certain that has never and will never happen because our marriage motto is FULL DISCLOSURE.

We never keep secrets; there is no reason to–we’re each others besties.

And there’s no one in the world that could ever replace him.

And yes, even all the shopping I do (and the Chanels, whether it’s a necklace or a handbag)–it’s MOSTLY always discussed and is agreed to before it happens hee hee.

Physical distance is only one aspect of a relationship-it can blossom and grow no matter how many oceans separate us.

REALLY.


And here’s a little song from the one and only Frank Sinatra

 

(Featured image from http://www.newlovetimes.com/)

 

Super Baby Food Cookbook: Review

In the summer of 1981 when my Angel Boy was about four months old and just starting solid foods (in addition to breast milk), I thought seriously about imitating animals who pre-digest their food.

From Wiki:

Premastication, pre-chewing, or kiss feeding is the act of chewing food for the purpose of physically breaking it down in order to feed another that is incapable of masticating the food by themselves. This is often done by the mother to produce baby food capable of being consumed by the child during the weaning process. 

The behaviour was common throughout human history and societies and observed in non-human animals. While premastication is less common in present-day Western societies it was commonly practiced, and is still done in more traditional cultures. Although the health benefits of premastication is still being actively studied the practice appears to confer certain nutritional and immunological benefits to the infant.

I didn’t actually go to those lengths, but I did make all of his baby food from scratch. I don’t think I bought those little Gerber jars except when I had a sick kitty that needed to be nursed back to health.

Now that I’m going to be a first-time grandma, I’ve learned just how much things have changed in thirty-plus years.

I was sent this amazing book to read and review by Ruth Yaron,  Super Baby Food Cookbook.

When Ruth Yaron’s twin boys were born premature and very sick, she knew the most important thing she could do for them was to feed them the healthiest diet possible.
Unhappy with the information that was available to her, Ruth decided to do her own exhaustive research on nutrition and health food.

Although she was a whiz at programming satellites for NASA, Ruth was an inexperienced cook. She utilized her skills, developed writing technical manuals, to diligently record her research of homemade, mostly organic, whole grain cereals, fruits, and vegetables, as well as the best storing and freezing methods.

The results of her phenomenal efforts are found in her remarkable first book, Super Baby Food, which has sold over half a million copies and is now in its 3rd edition.  Fans have asked Ruth for a cookbook with pictures of their favorite recipes and in the Super Baby Food Cookbook she has delivered.

The Super Baby Food Cookbook is fully illustrated in color and includes Ruth’s easy and complete system of baby and toddler food preparation.

The “Super Baby Food Diet” is an extremely healthy diet composed of only whole, natural foods.

It is based on these major components: whole grain cereals, vegetables and fruits, yogurt and other dairy products, eggs, nuts, seeds, and legumes.

Pediatricians and nutritionists agree that a semi-vegetarian diet (a lacto-ovo diet containing milk products and eggs) fulfills all of a growing baby’s nutritional requirements.

While I’m  a vegan, I understand the need for calcium and really like how these recipes include breast milk as an ingredient.

As an aside, if anyone has ever made cheese from breast milk, I’d be interested in chatting.

Yaron provides the essentials for preparing all sorts of foods for babies and young children.

The book includes baby favorites such as avocado, carrots, peaches, and pears.

Discover a bonus of “healthy extra” tips and how to use them in recipes, including chia seeds, wheat germ sprinkles, hemp seeds, flax seeds, and more so that every bite counts.

Here’s a small sampling of the dozens of kid-pleasing recipes contained in the Super Baby Food Cookbook:

Displaying Displaying Blueberry Purée

 2 cups blueberries (fresh or frozen)
1 cup water

Put water in a pan and bring to boil.
Add blueberries and reduce heat.
Simmer for 15-20 minutes; blueberries should be soft and tender.Remove blueberries from pan using a slotted spoon and transfer directly to a blender or processor. Purée away.Freeze any leftovers.

Apple Smiley Face

1 apple (peeled and cored)
1 tablespoon peanut or other butter
1 teaspoon honey or maple syrup or blackstrap molasses (optional)
1 pinch ground cinnamon or nutmeg

Grate the apple in a food processor.
Mix with 1 tablespoon of peanut butter or other nut butter.
Add 1 teaspoon honey, maple syrup or blackstrap molasses and a pinch of cinnamon and/or nutmeg, if desired.
Add Healthy Extras —grated carrots are good.
Place on small plate and form into pancake-shaped face. Use berries or other fruit for your own decorative touches to create eyes, nose, hair, etc.

For more information visit www.superbabyfood.com or www.ruthyaron.com

“The Happy Vegan” by Russell Simmons

51SMARDTY0L._SX352_BO1,204,203,200_I’m trying to stand as tall as I can and at a vertically challenged sixty inches, that’s all I have to offer, because I need to give hip-hop mogul Russell Simmons a big huge, gigantic, massive

APOLOGY.

Why?

I misjudged him.

When I was sent his book, The Happy Vegan, to read and review, I thought it was going to be another superficial and chichi vanity publication written by a “famous person” in order to jump on the trendy new “vegan” bandwagon.

I admit that I started to read it with a closed mind.

I’ve been a vegan since 1970 and confess that I’m kind of a vegan snob, but I’m happy to say that I was wrong!

Yes, you heard me correctly; I was WRONG. (This doesn’t often happen haha)

This is a thoughtful, mindful, compassionate, and informative read about Russell Simmons’ journey and his guide to living a long, healthy, and successful life.

His writing style is down-to-earth, relatable, and I truly feel like he cares very much about getting his/our message out about the health benefits of a vegan life.

Not only is he a big name in hip-hop and a fashion entrepreneur, he’s a devout yogi, and for nearly seventeen years, Russell Simmons has been a vegan.

In The Happy Vegan, Simmons clears up misconceptions people might have about veganism and lays out reasons adopting a vegan lifestyle is in everyone’s best interest.

If Mr. Simmons can hear me…”I’m sorry. I was wrong to have misjudged you. I wish I could have met you when you were recently in SoCal. The Happy Vegan is an awesome book!”

Wondering what to give (or get) this holiday season?

I 1000% recommend The Happy Vegan, authored by Russell Simmons and Chris Morrow.

Namaste.

P.S. The moral of THIS story? One should never judge a book by a preconceived notion.

Please Help Dearborn Wolf Sanctuary on #givingtuesday

Other living creatures are just like us.

To survive, they need the basics: food and shelter and medical care.

We can relate, right?

And that’s why Mel needs help for his rescued (abused) wolves and wolf hybrids.

From an enlightened reader who made me realize I had not included very important information about these animals: “…They were rescued from fools who keep animals like tigers, monkeys and wolves as pets. And then decide they’re not cute anymore, or they’re too much work, or whatever…”

And it’s really, really, REALLY true…even just a few dollars helps.

*A week of Starbucks. 

*Spare change.

That kind of thing.

It shouldn’t hurt to give, ya know?

If all of my 3,000 followers and friends were able to #give just a little bit, it would help SO much and you’d be doing SO MUCH GOOD.

Thank you for helping!!

*****(Donation info at the end of this post)*****


I’ve always loved wolves; I first became active in the 70s, doing what I could to support their originally being listed as an Endangered Species, and more recently, I spoke at the Fish and Wildlife Services hearing in Sacramento.

I wrote about that experience here: Saving Wolves

The wolf is an amazing animal that deserves to be protected and defended.

And saved.

However,

…Not everybody is as well-funded as Capt. Watson and his Sea Shepherd defenders and protectors of ocean creatures.

…Not everybody has the fundraising savvy of PETA or Defenders of Wildlife.

…Not every organization has a Washington, DC lobbyist.

But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t help others who dedicate their lives and sacrifice everything to save animals in danger.

There are angels all over this country who are committed to 24/7 care of abused and neglected wolves.

There are those heroes among us who DO the work, even though they might not be PR or social media savvy and have a staff to handle all the admin duties.

I admire the men and women who are in the trenches, the boots-on-the-ground caregivers  who feed and love and care for these beautiful and much maligned animals.

Dearborn Wolf Sanctuary can REALLY use our help. 

His mission is simple but very powerful:

” We rescue wolves and wolf-hybrids that are unwanted, abused, etc. We give them a loving home with three acres to run and play, and all the food they can eat.”

I donated a couple months ago, and I’m going to donate again.

Will you help, too? 

Dearborn Wolf Sanctuary is a nonprofit organization.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dearborn.wolfsanctuary

Please contact him to offer any hands on help, too.

How to donate:

Check or money order to:

Dearborn Wolf Sanctuary
31 Cox Creek Ln.
Cascade, Montana 59421

or

PAYPAL:
https://www.paypal.com/us/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_flow&SESSION=BRUfIKsNIM2LEE4cF1ysnfQFr2iE8uPkBbYvYAV-4YoQWmLJCkTbo8OuwPm&dispatch=5885d80a13c0db1f8e263663d3faee8da8649a435e198e44a05ba053bc68d12e

THANK YOU for donating and PLEASE share/reblog with your friends and readers…sometimes it takes a village to pitch in and help.

***Would anyone like to work with me on a fundraising campaign to help Dearborn Wolf Sanctuary?

#givingtuesday #cause #fundraising #socialgood #giveback

 

 

Don’t Be Sarah This Thanksgiving…

Saw this last night on Funny or Die and had to share.

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I’ve been so busy working on the campaign to #savecarlsbad #nolagoonmall #notincarlsbad that I haven’t been paying enough attention to blogging. All the info is at http://www.citizensfornorthcounty.org if you’re interested in how a group of concerned neighbors are fighting to save our lagoon from bad city leaders and their outside billionaire developer friend.

Angel Boy and preggy DIL are here and I prepared a delicious Vegan Veggie Pot Pie for dinner last night; took pics and was gonna share the recipe, but it’ll have to wait until there’s a lull in the action around here.

A quote about the real meaning of Thanksgiving from my secret crush…Jon Stewart

“I celebrated Thanksgiving in an old-fashioned way. I invited everyone in my neighborhood to my house, we had an enormous feast, and then I killed them and took their land.”

Now I have to go, cos my famous Kugel noodle/fruit dish has been requested and it’s time to roll my sleeves up and get to work.
Not Kegel, But a KUGEL-icuos  Recipe for Thanksgiving
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Are You Accident Prone Like Me?

I burn myself ALL the time.

It’s true.

Somehow I get careless and end up burned and blistered, whether it’s from my glue gun or curling iron (which actually works the opposite on my already curly hair-it relaxes the curl!), the iron, or a hot pot handle.

I break bones too, but that’s another story…(click on the link to read.)

Not a Nip Slip But…Slip + Fall = Break

It’s understandable that I’d jump on the chance to try a new product that’s supposed to take the burn away, right?

Burns HURT.

MyPainAway After Burn Cream soothes the pain and discomfort; it really does! It’s made with good things; I keep my tube sitting prominently on the kitchen counter.

gI_84892_After-Burn Tube

…Sunburn
…Windburn
…Blisters
…Cooking Burns
…Helps to reduce/improve appearance of scars.

You know I love a company that gives back: 3% of all After Burn Cream sales goes to burn centers.

With all the cooking and baking we’re doing during the holiday season, it’s a good idea to keep this product close by, don’t you think?

ABOUT TOPICAL BIOMEDICS

Twenty-one years in business and a Certified B Corporation, Topical BioMedics is a research and development leader in topical patented natural biomedicines for pain relief.

The company’s flagship product, Topricin® Pain Relief and Healing Cream, was introduced in 1994 and is now a leading natural therapeutic brand.

A combination natural biomedicine formula, Topricin has been awarded a patent for the treatment of pain associated with fibromyalgia and neuropathy. Topricin products are mandatory treatment protocol at world renowned medical centers.

The Topricin family of natural healing products also includes Topricin Foot Therapy Cream, specially formulated to treat painful foot and ankle issues and conditions, and Topricin for Children, which received the Parent Tested Parent Approved Seal of Approval (with 5% of sales are donated to pediatric cancer foundations).

The company has just launched the MyPainAway™ (powered by Topricin) line of products.  Its two new formulas have been introduced—MyPainAway Fibro Cream (3% of sales donated to fibromyalgia research foundations) and MyPainAway After-Burn Cream (3% sales donated to burn centers)—with others slated to roll out later in 2015 and 2016.

Made in the U.S.A., all Topricin products are federally-regulated over-the-counter medicines with no known side effects, no parabens, petroleum, or other harsh chemicals, no grease, and no odor.

Topical BioMedics launched a free monthly pain management webinar in February 2015. Featuring Lou Paradise, president, chief of research, and pain management expert, the webinars are streamed live the second Tuesday of each month from 12pm to 1pm then archived on the company’s WordPress blog for on-demand access 24/7.  https://topricin.wordpress.com/

For more information visit http://www.topricin.com